Facebook recently reminded me again about Patience and how social media can twist and turn an opinion or remark.
A couple of years ago a quote made rounds on social media next to a photo of Meryl Streep. The quote, not by Streep, but instead by José Micard Teixeira, was attributed to her because a blogger posted the quote and put her photo next to it. The quote struck a chord with me and I suspect also with others, because it went viral at the time.
The quote goes:
“I no longer have patience for certain things, not because I’ve become arrogant, but simply because I reached a point in my life where I do not want to waste more time with what displeases me or hurts me.
I have no patience for cynicism, excessive criticism and demands of any nature. I lost the will to please those who do not like me, to love those who do not love me and to smile at those who do not want to smile at me.
I no longer spend a single minute on those who lie or want to manipulate. I decided not to coexist anymore with pretense, hypocrisy, dishonesty and cheap praise. I do not tolerate selective erudition nor academic arrogance. I do not adjust either to popular gossiping. I hate conflict and comparisons.
I believe in a world of opposites and that’s why I avoid people with rigid and inflexible personalities. In friendship I dislike the lack of loyalty and betrayal. I do not get along with those who do not know how to give a compliment or a word of encouragement. Exaggerations bore me and I have difficulty accepting those who do not like animals.
And on top of everything I have no patience for anyone who does not deserve my patience.”
Be Patient. Why should I?
It is the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, problems, or suffering without becoming annoyed or anxious. Sounds more like being a doormat to others to be honest. Screw patience!
Patience is bad for your health
Yeah, pretty powerful statement, huh?! It’s true though. We live in a society that wants everything “now” and everything is transient, and I mean everything. From products to relationships, emotions to friendships, jobs and opinions. Should you be patient and accepting of everything that comes at you? The answer you’re looking for is “No”.
Good things come to those who wait, at least that’s what Diageo has been trying to tell us for years. Well, no, those who wait get passed over.
The same goes for patience. How would your mental state be if you tolerate any type of abuse, accept problems and tell yourself to be patient because those problems will surely go away over time or when the know-it-all new partner of a friend is setting your teeth on edge as soon as they start talking? You don’t need that in your life and you shouldn’t have to or want to accept it.
Older and wiser
We become less patient the older we get. Society likes us to think that’s a byproduct of getting older and we’re just being cranky. No! We just stopped listening to bullshit when it’s staring us in the face.
In our teens we want to be accepted and be everyone’s friend, because of a fear of not fitting in. Our twenties are about fitting in and a fear of missing out (FOMO). Once you hit your thirties you begin to realise that a lot of things you held dear are a load of crap and that you shouldn’t have to accept a person, an opinion or belief because it is expected.
Maya Angelou said it beautifully – “If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” If you don’t want to listen to me, listen to Ms. Angelou.
What should you do then?
Read the quote at the start of the article again. Stop living your life for others, don’t accept the status quo, remove intolerance from your life and don’t be someone else’s doormat.
The most important person in your life is you. And anybody who disagrees with that or with you….you can tell them that I told them to go f#&k themselves.